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De-Stressing Life: How To Avoid Stress & Your Stressors

Trying to de-stress when you’re stressed can be rather distressing. To avoid any stressors, it’s important to understand stress itself, identify stressors when they arise, and how to relieve stress with some easy remedies. 

If you’re stressed right now, take a deep breath and a few minutes to read through this to help give yourself a break and a better understanding of how to feel less stressed going forward. 

What Is Stress?

For most of us,
stress is what we feel when life is at its busiest. The reason for that is that stress is just a natural part of life. Stress is the pressure or tension exerted on an object, but stress is also the mental or emotional state of strain or tension from demanding circumstances. If you’ve ever been stressed, you know exactly what that tension and strain feel like. It’s almost like pressure being applied to your mind and body. 

Stress is how your mind and body respond to demands that you face. We often associate it with negative feelings, but we can be stressed in the happiest of times as well. Whether you’re planning a wedding or a funeral, there’s a chance that you may feel stress. Stress is also felt across all age groups. 

Despite stress being a natural part of life, it’s still entirely possible to have too much stress. Being overly stressed can affect your overall health. Learning the signs of stress will help you know when it’s time to make changes to your demands in life. 

What Does Too Much Stress Look Like?

When stress is negatively impacting you, there are
warning signs to look out for:

  • Being overly moody
  • Feeling overwhelmed
  • An Increase in insecurities
  • Avoidance of other people
  • Lowered energy levels
  • Digestive distress
  • Lowered immune defenses
  • Constant worrying
  • Increased forgetfulness
  • Lowered ability to focus
  • Impaired judgment
  • Inability to see the bright side or be optimistic
  • Unexpected changes in weight

Ignoring the signs of too much stress can lead to chronic stress. If you suffer from chronic stress, it may be time to talk to your physician so you can start to manage it in your everyday life. 

One of the most important things to think about is identifying your stressors. Once you identify what may be causing you to stress out, then you can better manage your stress with a wide array of remedies.

What are Your Stressors?

Stressors can come from events and the environment surrounding us. When you’re identifying your stressors, it’s important to be honest with yourself so that you may get to the bottom of relieving your stress sooner than later.

Look Outside Yourself

Some stressors that can affect you from external sources are:

  • Major life changes 
    • Examples: The death of a loved one or buying a home
  • Environmental 
    • Examples: Traffic, sudden noises, or changes in lighting
  • Unpredictable events 
    • Example: Guests who show up unexpectedly, your hours at work get cut
  • Workplace 
    • Example: Workloads, deadlines, personality conflicts
  • Social 
    • Example: Meeting new people, keeping up appearances
  • Family 
    • Example: pressures to meet expectations, maintaining relationships
  • Traumatic events 
    • Example: war, accidents, assaults, abuse

Look Inside Yourself

Some of the stressors that can affect you from within are:

  • Personal fears 
    • Example: Fear of car accident while riding
  • Uncertainty 
    • Example: Waiting for results of a test
  • Personal expectations 
    • Example: Pressure to create a perfect holiday
  • Insecurities 
    • Example: Fear that people will notice that you don’t know something

It’s important to think of ways to manage your stressors as you identify them. Lifestyle changes may help with either external or internal stressors. 

How To Avoid and Manage Stress

You can avoid stress, but many of us don’t know how. Here are a few steps you can take to avoid stress.

1 - Put Yourself First

If you’ve ever flown in a plane, you may have noticed the safety instructions that tell you to put your oxygen mask on first before you attempt to help anyone else. Stress works the same way. When you’re stressed, and the people around you are stressed, you have to take care of yourself first before you can hope to help anyone else. 

When you prioritize yourself, you will find that the natural things we let slip when we’re stressed, like healthy eating and regular exercise, are the same tools we need to help us avoid feeling overwhelmed in the first place. 

If we take care of ourselves, we may be surprised to find that we don’t feel nearly as stressed. Likewise, avoiding things that can add to our feelings of being overly stressed, like too much caffeine and alcohol, can help us avoid increasing our stress levels unduly. 

2 - Learn To Relax

mindful activities that help us relax like journaling, meditating, praying, or yoga can help reduce our stress levels. It’s important not to discredit the benefits of being in nature or listening to music to help your relaxation efforts.

3 - Ask For Help

It’s easier for a lot of people to say “I’m sorry” than it is for them to say “I need help.” Recognizing your limits is not a weakness. Recognizing your limits will greatly benefit you when it comes to setting personal boundaries. Isn’t it funny how easy it is to be willing to help others? But we worry that people will think badly of us when we do need help. To avoid the pressures of being too stressed, it’s important to be open to the possibility that you just need a little help this time.

4 - Take a Break

As in the beginning, you’re encouraged to take a break for yourself. Sometimes you need five minutes to just breathe. At other times, you may need a break from some of your responsibilities. Learning to let go where you can help you avoid stress. 

5 - Talk It Out

Talking through what’s bothering you with a close friend, counselor, doctor, or clergy member may be exactly what you need to work through your stress and remember that you’re not alone. A good sounding board may help you give yourself solutions that you wouldn’t have realized otherwise, and it’s also possible that a person with a more objective or a fresh perspective can offer up a new way for you to view the stressors and how to avoid them.

What To Do To De-Stress When Avoiding Stress Isn’t An Option

Sometimes you can’t avoid stress. Remember, it’s a natural part of life. Like other natural parts of our lives, we can’t always avoid them, even if we find them unpleasant. Learning to handle stress and de-stress anyway can help you to avoid some of the negative effects of too much stress. So, what can you do?

First, it’s vital to embrace routines. Routines provide structure and familiarity to our lives. When you feel overwhelmed, slipping back into your routines can help you feel grounded and give you a sense of control when your circumstances might otherwise feel like chaos. 

If you don’t have any established routines, starting with something small may be a good start. Taking one Complete Calm De-stress Gummy once a day can help you establish a routine with the onus of helping you feel calmer almost immediately.

Prioritize your sleep. Sleeping is an essential function, but in times of stress, its importance can be forgotten. Making time for proper sleep habits will help your body and mind be better prepared to deal with life stressors. If stress or anxiety make it difficult to calm down for sleep, you may want to add a calming supplement to help you settle down so that you can sleep. With key ingredients like Safr-Inside™, L-Tryptophan, Chamomile Extract, Holy Basil, Lemon Balm Extract, among others, you’ll overall feel a sense of calmness when taking the Complete Calm Sleep Gummies.

Accept reality. If your stressors are just part of your reality right now, then fighting them is a wasted effort. It is better to accept their presence and take care of yourself as you weather the storm. 

Prioritize your health. Take care to maintain a healthy diet and some type of physical activity. 

If you still struggle to focus and elevate your mood, consider a supplement to help you not feel as anxious. ASYSTEM offers a natural way o feel relief when your daily stressors may feel like they are at an all-time high. 

Complete Calm De-Stress Gummies offer ample calming benefits such as:

  • It helps improve your ability to manage stress and anxiousness within a two-week timeframe
  • It helps elevate mood and sharpen focus
  • It contains clinically proven ingredients, tastes delicious, and has zero side effects.


Understanding what stress is can help you identify what’s causing stress in your life. Whether your stress comes from good things that are happening to you, bad things that are happening to you, or just from the craziness that is happening around you, it’s important to know how to identify when stress is affecting you and what’s causing your stress. 

When you understand where your stress is coming from you, you can work to avoid it when you can or learn to accept it and de-stress from it when you can’t. Remember that you are not your stress, and your stress is not you. Allow it to exist when it’s needed, and learn to live with what you have to and let go of what you don’t. 

ASYSTEM offers a wide range of products that are simple, powerful, and effective at helping you feel your best, no matter what. If you want to learn more about our calming products that may help your stress melt away, click here.


NIMH » 5 Things You Should Know About Stress | 

"Stress symptoms: Effects on your body and behavior" | 

Stress: Signs, Symptoms, Management & Prevention | Cleveland Clinic 

Mindfulness exercises | Mayo Clinic 

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